I’m currently reading through The Masculine Mandate: God’s Calling to Men by Richard D. Phillips. One section jumped out at me in particular when he writes,

“What do men need to know about marriage? If my experience as a pastor is any guide—experience corroborated by nearly every pastor with whom I have discussed this topic—the best answer is something like this ‘Quite a bit more than they know now’” (55).

I chuckled when I read this because even though I don’t know the author personally, based on my pastoral experience I would wholeheartedly agree. Turning inward I had to admit that I need to know quite a bit more than I know now about marriage. I have to admit that in eight years of marriage I have not always been the best spiritual leader in my home. I have to admit that it is easy to settle into patterns in our marriage, more often than not just letting our marriage coast on auto-pilot.

Guys, it’s time to man-up. It’s time to take responsibility for the state of our marriages. It’s time to turn to God’s Word to find out what it means to be a Godly husband, and then to take steps to put our faith into action. Take a minute and read Genesis 2:18-25 where we find the first word on the subject.

1.       Marriage Meets our Need for Relationship (v. 18)

God makes the statement, “It is not good for man to be alone.” God models living in relationship as He eternally exists as a Trinity, the “God-head, Three-in-One.” He created us to be in relationship with Him. He also created us to be in relationship with each other, the ultimate example of that relationship being the one between a husband and wife. The social sciences confirm that we were created for relationship-that something changes and damages as person when they live in isolation from other people. I know that my wife is God’s gift to me as we share life together. The challenge here is that we must constantly be working and growing our relationship with our wives. During the dating and courtship phases of a relationship, this may have come more easily-the times where you could talk on the phone for hours or couldn’t wait to spend time together. When the pressures of work and managing the schedule of a family come in to play, this does not come as naturally and we must be intentional. In some ways, men, we can’t ever stop dating our wives.

2.       Marriage Meets Our Need for Ministry (v. 18)

The next part of verse 18 shows that God said, “I will make a helper as his complement” (HCSB). This tells us that part of the purpose of marriage is for the husband and wife to work together. God did not create your wife to wait on you hand and foot. When God placed Adam in the garden he had an expectation that he was going to have to work. Eve was created to help her husband accomplish this ministry and be a complement to him. A Godly husband is the spiritual leader of the home and should lead, allowing his wife to assist him in this task. Unfortunately, in many families, we as men have abandoned our responsibility and left the spiritual matters to our wives. One question I’ve asked men before that gets to the heart of the issue, “If your wife didn’t get up and come to church on Sunday, would you?”

3.       Marriage Is Created By God (v. 22)

I know this may go without saying, but in our culture it cannot be assumed. Marriage is not created or defined by the government. It is not defined by our culture. It is not established by whatever we feel marriage should be. Marriage is created by God. In verse 21 God creates Eve and took her and “brought her to the man.” Marriage is actually the first institution created by God. Marriage actually comes before government. Since marriage is created and established by God, its purposes and benefits are derived from Him alone. Because of this we stand in contrast to our culture and government and say that marriage is between one man and one woman. Because God created marriage, when I have the privilege of officiating weddings I never say “by the power invested in my by the State of South Carolina.” It is not by the power of the state that you are getting married, it is by the power of God! So who should we look to when it comes to growing in our marriage? A pagan and godless government and culture or the King of the universe who created, set apart, and instituted marriage?

4.       Marriage involves Healthy Separation (v. 24)

The Bible says that “this is why a man leaves his father and mother.” When you marry your wife you have to leave your parents. That does not mean that you dishonor them, but you now become the head of your own family, with the responsibility that comes with it. I struggled with this early on in my own marriage as my father was a very strong leader in our house. I carried this into our marriage in that I had to learn a new way of relating to my Dad that still honored him as my father, but also honored my new role as head of my own family. Men, this means that your first loyalty is now to your wife. In the South we have a saying, “blood is thicker than water.” How insidious when we try to apply this to marriage. Men, you must choose your “above all else” including your family. This also means, as a word to wives, the first time he doesn’t do something right that you run back to your parents. When you get married you are making the commitment to create a healthy separation.

5.       Marriage Means Sticking Together (v. 24)

The “leaving” that happens in the first part of this verse is closely associated to the “cleaving” together in the second part. The Bible teaches that when a man and wife come together they become “one flesh.” This is pictured through the physical relationship between a husband of wife which is an outward sign of the inward reality that you are no longer two-but one. This does not mean that you must walk around joined at the hip or that you lose your personality in your spouse. Part of the spice of life in our marriage is that God created Amy and I with two different personalities. We don’t give that up just because we get married. What is does mean is that we are bonded together by our common faith and commitment to each other that we are no longer two single individuals, but a marriage unit. That means when she hurts, I hurt. When I rejoice, she rejoices. That means that we are both playing for the same team and I’m her biggest cheerleader and she’s mine. I’ve seen a picture floating around Facebook of an elderly couple holding hands. They are asked the question, “How did you manage to stay together for 65 years?” to which they reply, “We were born in a time when if something was broken we would fix it, not throw it away. . . “

Men, it’s time to man-up, to be the spiritual leaders in our homes and learn what it means to build a marriage God’s way.

This is a blog post by Thom Rainer that originally appeared on his blog ThomRainer.com on June 2nd.

Aross the land, many have confided in me their hurts and secrets. I don’t think they would mind that I share these secrets with you, as long as I don’t identify them with any one pastor by name.

1. “My marriage is struggling.” 
   Pastors are on call 24 hours a day, seven days a week. Oftentimes family meals are interrupted by a call. A planned date with a wife is put on hold because of an emergency related to a church member. Pastors’ wives sometimes wonder if their husbands are married to them or to the church. Resentment and marital fights are not uncommon.
2. “I fear my kids will grow up hating the church.” 
   One pastor told me in tears the story of a church member criticizing the pastor’s wife to the pastor in front of his 12-year-old son. The young boy went home insisting he hated the church and never wanted to return. Children are often exposed to the dark side of church life. Pastors worry that they won’t recover.
3. “I let a handful of critics control me.”
   These pastors wish the squeaky wheel didn’t always get oiled, but such is the reality in many churches. “If I ignore them (the critics), “ one pastor told me, “they will make life miserable for me and my family. Sometimes it’s just best to give them their way.”
4. “I often have anger toward the supportive church members who don’t defend me to my critics.”
   “It’s not my critics who bother me personally,” the pastor shared with me. “It’s the so-called supportive members who refuse to come to my defense when I’m attacked by a critic. Going into a business meeting, one of these supporters told me how much he loved me, and how he would always have my back. Fifteen minutes later, I’m being castigated by three members who hardly ever attend church. What does my supporter do or say? Absolutely nothing. That’s what really hurts.”
5. “I’ve thought about quitting several times.” 
   These pastors are truly called men of God. They really do love their congregations. Most of them will endure the criticisms aimed at them personally. But when supportive members really don’t support them, or when family members are hurt, many pastors think about quitting. “Only one thing has stopped me from quitting,” the pastor said. “It’s the call of God. That’s what keeps me hanging on.”

 

The Savior Came to Suffer

Matthew 16:21-28

At this point Jesus reveals His mission to the disciples. First, his mission was going to shift from Galilee to Jerusalem. Historically it had been the capital of Israel. From the time of David it was the spiritual center of Judaism. Since the time of Solomon everything revolved around the Temple and the sacrifices performed there on a daily basis. Up to this point Jesus had primarily ministered in Galilee, i.e., in the country, on the outskirts – now he was going to the heart of Israel

Second, he was going to suffer at the hands of the spiritual leaders of Israel:  the elders, chief priests, and scribes. The elders were the ones in authority. The chief priests were the ones responsible for teaching the truth. The scribes were responsible for God’s Word. All three of these groups should have recognized Jesus for who He was. Instead of being recognized and worshipped by the spiritual leaders, Jesus is going to suffer. He would be arrested, brought up on false charges, spat upon, struck, ridiculed, and beaten within an inch of his life.

Third, he was going to die and be resurrected on the third day. We have already seen that he alluded to the sign of Jonah. The popular understanding was that the Messiah was going to come and liberate Israel from the Roman Empire—not die! Jesus came to die in order to pay the penalty for our sins. He had to die, there was no other way.  Otherwise we would still be dead in our sins. He rose again to prove that He alone had conquered death and set in motion the plan to reverse the curse. Had he remained in the ground he would have been venerated like every other major religious figure—but we would be living without hope; As Paul would write, As in Adam all die, so in Christ, shall all be made alive!

We Sometimes Follow Our Own Way Instead of God’s Way

Peter had just made his profound profession of faith – “You are the Christ, the son of the living God.”

Here, Peter falls into the trap and when Jesus reveals the rescue plan to the disciples he steps in and says, No way, Jesus! This will never happen to you! Though Peter was sincere in his statement  he had things all wrong—even though it didn’t make sense, Jesus had to die-it was part of the plan.  Peter wasn’t thinking about God’s plan, he was thinking about his own plan. Jesus rebukes Peter in about the harshest way, “Get behind me Satan!” meaning in his disagreement with Jesus over the plan Peter was allowing the enemy to use him to discourage Jesus from completing the plan.

We can sometimes follow our way instead of God’s way. We can start telling God what we will and will not do. We can start making decisions based solely on how It will affect our bottom line and not how it will affect us spiritually. We can trust in our own understanding instead of trusting in the Lord will all our hearts.

 

If We Are Going to Follow Jesus, We Are Going to Have to Sacrifice

We must deny ourself, take up our cross, and follow Him. To deny ourself speaks to discipline – it is hard to deny ourself sometimes. It also speaks to deciding who is in control.

We must take up our cross; this is a positive action. The cross is an instrument of our death. It means we are willing to die to self in order to live for Christ. It means we are willing to risk it all-our very lives.

Only after denying ourself and taking up our cross can we begin to follow Him. If you think you can follow Christ and it not cost you everything you are sadly mistaken. We must be willing to lose our life to Christ.

Sometimes the Reward Is Not in This Life

Many times we like to see immediate rewards. In school we want a check plus or a sticker. In our jobs we want a paycheck or bonus. We want the trophy at the end of the race or season. In following Christ, the rewards may not be as apparent  as in other areas of our life. We may serve the Lord and wonder if we are making a difference. We will not know the true impact of our service to God until after we’re dead and gone.  Christ will reward each according to what He’s done. I often joke to some people that have to put up with a lot in life that one day they are going to have a  “big, big mansion.” The biggest reward is that we will not have to suffer through death. Death is not a destination for the believer, only a door. We don’t follow for the reward, but know, believer, that your sacrifice and service may go unnoticed by the world, by not by its Maker.

Just as Christ suffered, so to suffering and sacrifice is part of being a Christian. As an American Christian this is sometimes foreign to us, but if our country continues in its current direction I believe it will not be long before we see the days when we will have to stand opposed to our own nation’s laws in order to stand for what we believe in. Are you ready to sacrifice and suffer for your Lord who sacrificed it all for you?

Apple is expected to announce the iPad 3 on March 7th. That means we are a week and a half away. The following is a list of features that are rumored to be appearing in the new model:

• 2048 x 1536 Retina display (as opposed to 1024 x 768).
• 8  5 MP  camera (as opposed to 1 MP)
• Quad-Core A5X Processor (as opposed to Dual-Core A5)
• 4G LTE (as opposed to 3G)

I’m excited about seeing the updated resolution. I can tell a huge difference between the display on my iPhone 3gs and Amy’s iPhone 4, which is a Retina display. The sharpness just pulls you right in. This should also improve the airplay and video out capabilities. Will it now be able to play in HD to your HDTV?

I own the original iPad. As such I have no camera front or back, but I have heard people complain that their iPad 2 photos are grainy and this is a needed (and easy) upgrade to make the people happy. I can see using it to capture handwritten notes or handouts, importing them right into something like Evernote. Now that Amy and my mother have new Apple products, FaceTime is a feature I could see using in the future.

The processor bump is something that has been said to be necessitated by the updated display. My iPad, which is 16 months old uses the A4 processor and it is just as responsive as the day I brought it home. I will say that after having my iPhone 3gs for 32 months now (a dinosaur in tech-land) it is starting to show some lag in loading certain apps. . . come on iPhone 5!

My iphone is 3g, which seems to work fine. We get great 3g speeds where I live, but most of the time I’m using wi-fi. I can count just a few times where I had my iPad and wished I had purchased the 3G model. I don’t know that it’s really necessary, but if the iPad 3 has 4G LTE, then it would only give further credence that the iPhone 5 (of which I’m holding out for) will have 4G LTE as well. What will be really interesting is if there will be only one model that you can connect to either Verizon or AT&T.

It also remains to be seen what the pricing strategy will be, if the early success of the Amazon Kindle Fire will cause Apple to adjust their prices. My prediction is that the iPad 3 prices will remain in line with the current pricing structure and the iPad 2 will be offered as a discount model to better compete with the Fire.

 

Today was an emotional day.

While preaching is my number one passion in ministry, a strong second it providing pastoral care and hospital visitation. When one of my flock is dealing with physical tragedy I want to be right there.

This morning started with a text message while I was getting ready. One of my guys had flipped his car driving home from work early this morning. He was being rushed to the hospital. I made my way to the ER, upon arriving the ladies buzzed me back without directions because I know where I’m going. Part of pastoring means you know your way around a hospital and the staff can spot you coming. I find that they’ve taken him back for tests. Inside the room is his wife, dressed for work, but obviously not going in today on this Monday. She’s visibly shaken and bursts into tears as I approach. You would think that by now I would know just what to say. I find that in these times sometimes prayer and presence is more important than having the right words. We pray together and thank the Lord that his injuries didn’t appear to be more serious than they were and that we trusted Him in the midst of the unknown. A few minutes later my brother is wheeled in. He’s banged up a bit and in quite a bit of pain. He hasn’t received any pain meds until they rule out any internal bleeding. The scan comes back: some broken ribs and punctured lung, he’s going to have to stay overnight for observation and he’s going to hurt-but should be okay. There’s relief as it sinks in that in light of the situation it is no more serious than it is. Now time for me to move on with the rest of my day.

Before getting back to Hickory Tavern, I get a phone call about another one of my flock. One of my guys is about to receive bad news from the doctor and the family is gathering to let him know. In just a matter of weeks we have watched as the strength and mobility has been quickly taken by my friend.  First his speech was garbled, now he cannot talk. He has lost movement on his right side. Now he has trouble walking. The doctor has recommended the family call Hospice in. I’m on my way. This one hurts. We all shed tears as the news is shared and it is not good. We pray. I search my Bible and find Psalm 91. “Whoever dwells in the shelter of the Most High will rest in the shadow of the Almighty. . .” Do we need the Almighty right now. We have prayed for months that God would heal him. Today it things look hopeless-but our hope is in the Lord. Even if death is near, death is not the end for the believer, it is only a door.

It’s now lunchtime. I head home to hug my girls and kiss my wife.

After lunch it’s time to hit the road again. Another member has been at Memorial for almost a week. It’s a 35 mile drive one-way down a long stretch of road. I tune in to listen to Rush Limbaugh pontificate on the Republican primaries. Not even the golden mic of the EIB network can keep me from zoning out. It has been an emotional day and its only half over. I park in my usual spot and take my usual route to the elevators. I walk in with a few other visitors who hit the button for the 5th floor. I don’t have to stop at the desk because I was just here to see her a few days ago and I know right where to go. My church member is in the bed, the doctors still aren’t sure what’s ailing her. It doesn’t take long and she’s got me laughing. She’s speaking truth to me: God is in control! She’s in the hospital and is more concerned with the other two that I visited already today. A nurse sticks her head in the door and needs to do something. I place my hand on her head and we pray together. We pray for her and we pray for our church. I say Amen and its time to go.

I drive the long stretch back home, counting down the miles. When I pull in the driveway I’m emotionally drained. I crash on the couch with my two princesses playing around me. I know that I can’t carry the burdens of my church family alone. He has to carry the burden.

It was definitely not how I thought I would spend a Monday-but I would not trade it for anything.

Esther 4:12-17

The second character who took a risk for God was a young Jewish girl named Esther. Living in exile, Esther was chosen as the unlikely queen to the Persian King Xerxes. After assuming her new position It came to light that there was a conspiracy within Xerxes’ government to exterminate the Jewish people. Esther finds herself in a position to make a difference, but at great risk to her personal safety.

God Doesn’t Need You, But He Wants To Use You (v. 14)

Mordecai reminds Esther that God placed her exactly in the position that He wanted her to be-not for her own benefit, but for the good of her people. Not to bring herself glory, but to bring God glory.

Mordecai also put her in her place a little bit-he reminded her that if she did nothing she was going to die and God would use someone else to accomplish his purpose. Some people think that life is a movie and they have the leading role. Well, life is real-it’s not a movie, and though God wants to do something amazing in your life, He doesn’t need you and if you choose to follow your own path-He will raise up another. This church does not revolve around your pastor, or any one person here. If we ever get the idea that this place would fall apart if we left-watch out! That’s not God.  God has been working in this church long before any of us got here and if He tarries, long after we are dead and gone.

But. . . God so wants to use us to accomplish His plan! I mean think about it. God could have called down fire from heaven and delivered the Jewish people-but He didn’t. He chose to exalt one of his precious daughters to the highest position she could attain, make her Queen to a pagan King, and use her to bring salvation to a nation. While there is only one way for God to provide salvation; there were numerous ways He could have used bring his message to the world. Instead He chose us! He chooses the foolish things of the world to confound the wise.

God Has a Plan and Ultimately He’s in Control (v. 14)

One of the things that made Esther hesitate was her fear. She feared her lack of ability for the task and she feared what the king might do. -Were she to appear uninvited before the king, it was punishable by death. That was her first response to Mordecai-he could kill me unless he invites me, and he hasn’t invited me in about a month.

We can let fear paralyze us in following God’s will for our life; the fear of the unknown, the fear of the future, the fear of what might happen, the fear of failure. We must remember, however, that God has a plan and ultimately He’s in control. When we realize that God is in control; then it frees us to follow Him.

How do we discern God’s will for our life?

through Scripture; what does the Bible say about where you are in life? Don’t know? Is    it because you’re not spending time one-on-one with Him and His Word? It’s one thing to sit under biblical preaching and biblical teaching, but another thing to sit directly under the Bible. That is what Godly men and women in our past went to the death for-for the freedom that you and I have to hold a copy of the Scriptures in our hands.

through prayer; this involves asking God to show you, to speak to you; this involves talking to Him, but also listening. Are you listening?

through Godly counsel; have you surrounded yourself with people who are going to tell             you what you want to hear or are going to speak wisdom to you? Who are going to tell you how they feel about something, or what they believe God would say to you?

God has created you for a specific purpose and its not to eat, sleep, and breath air. It is to bring glory and honor to Him and be a powerful agent of hope to this dark world! How are you being part of God’s plan for you?

We Must Prepare for What God Wants Us To Do (v. 16)

Esther didn’t just jump right out-she prepared and earnestly sought the Lord. She called every believer she knew and asked them to fast and pray with her for 3 days. A fast is when you cease eating for a spiritual purpose; when you deny your physical hunger in order to focus spiritually on an important decision or task ahead. We sometimes wonder why as Baptists we don’t experience revival like we wish because saying fast to a Baptist is a four-letter word. Notice, though, she’s not fasting to draw attention to herself, but she’s fasting because she could die and all of her people if God doesn’t do a miracle.

We have to prepare for what God wants us to do.

-we have to prepare ourselves spiritually

-have we accepted Jesus as our Lord and Savior?

-have we dealt with any unconfessed sin in our life?

-are we walking daily with Him through prayer and Bible study?

-are we actively growing, serving, and giving in a local body of believers?

We Must Step Out in Faith (v. 16)

After preparing herself, Esther stepped out in faith and approached the king. As we continue reading we see how God used her in a powerful way. Like Peter who saw the Lord walking on the water and he stepped out of the boat, Esther stepped out with nothing but God to catch her should she fall. It’s not enough to know what to do, if we never step out to do it.

We must step out in faith once we have sought God’s will and prepared

We minister to a lot of firefighter and first responder families here who train and train and train and train; why do they do all the training? So when the time comes they can put their training into action and everything clicks-they have so trained their mind and bodies what to do that they don’t even have to think about what to do next.

Do they train so they can talk about how trained they are? We have one of the few swift-water rescue teams in the Upstate. If someone gets caught in one of our rivers or streams, our men and women are trained in how to safely get them out of the water. They have spent days, dollars, and a lot of time in the water learning how to do that; so that they can use that one day to save a person’s life.

There comes a time when training is done; it’s time to go and do what God has called us to do. It may mean that we step up this year in sharing our faith; being a verbal witness of what Christ is done. It may mean that we step up this year in ministry; in caring and serving others that need Christ.

One way you can train as you go is on our mission trip. God has blessed us this year and we have room. You’ve heard the testimonies from those who have gone before-haven’t you wanted to go? Right now if you can take the time off from work you can go on this trip. I know of few churches who do mission trips every year where about the entire cost of the trip is already paid for. We don’t go to go on vacation; though when we’re together we have fun. We are there to serve and share the gospel alongside each other; and bringing that same compassion and action back home with us throughout the year.

Whatever your next step is, are you prepared and ready to step out in faith, taking a risk for God?

I don’t know about you, but I surely do not want to waste my life. I have one life to live, one life to give, and I want to make it count. I do not want to spend my life merely surviving, I want to thrive! God got my attention a few ways. First, I was introduced to a young Christian R&B artist named Lecrae and his song “Don’t Waste Your Life.” I would listen to it as I would run-it not only motivated me to get in shape, the deeper theological truth was sinking in, run-by-run. At the same time I started reading through John Piper’s book, Don’t Waste Your Life. In it he writes a chapter on taking risks for God. It sparked my interest as he mentioned several different Biblical examples of men and women who followed God and stepped out in faith. I took some notes and filed it away hoping to turn my study into a sermon series.

I absolutely love my church.
When you start following God’s will for your life, be ready because it is an adventure. I have been blessed to have served at several different churches in about every context you can imagine. Two years ago Henderson Baptist Church in beautiful downtown Hickory Tavern, South Carolina, called me as their next pastor. The first year I would call a foundational year. Henderson was getting to know me, and I was getting to know Henderson (and Hickory Tavern). I really didn’t know what I was doing, but I focused on doing those things that I did know how to do: teach, preach, and pastor. I did have a healthy dose of fear. Fear that I would fail. Fear that the church would fail. Fear that I would be another in a long line of short-term pastors. At the end of my second year, about to start my third, it is starting to get fun! God is truly doing a miracle here at this church. People are getting saved and lives are being transformed. This year the church has started growing, both spiritually and numerically. This morning we had as many people in our morning worship service as we did at homecoming last year (without the fried chicken and poundcake!). Pretty soon we are going to have a space problem. It is fun when you see people bringing their friends and family to Christ. It is fun when I stepped into our ladies Sunday School class and they are apprenticing several different ladies to teach. It is fun when we just had a baptism and next week I get to baptize again. It is fun when I get to focus and do those things that God has called me to do (teach, preach, pastor) and let the church do everything else. It is freeing to focus on what God has called you to do and let Him and His people handle the rest.
I Love My Church, and I hope you do too!

“I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith.” 2 Timothy 4:7

This month I have started running.  Someone asked me a few days ago why I started.  I’ve never been athletic, but was blessed with the genetics that allowed me to stay modestly fit.  Recently, however, I started putting on a few more pounds than I was comfortable with and I began experiencing some stress-related issues, that quite frankly, scared me a little bit.  I began with the motivation at the beginning of the year to start working out.  I even had a “workout buddy” lined up.  Well, I kept making the excuse that I was waiting for my workout buddy so I could start working out.  March rolled around and we still had not gone anywhere.  The ancient Chinese proverb states, “A thousand miles begins with a single step.”  One afternoon I pulled out my running shoes, which while a year old they looked brand spanking new, laced them up and headed out the door.

That first day I downloaded the $1.99 Nike+ GPS app for my phone.  It tracks your progress and chimes in every so often with time and distance stats.  With social networking integration, my facebook friends can literally “cheer” me on while I run.  It is a great tool for a beginning runner like me.

I can say that I honestly didn’t make it too far that first day.  I did not want to come without doing at least a mile.  That first run nearly killed me.  It took almost 19 minutes to complete that mile.  I ran for less than a quarter mile before I had to take a break, huffing and puffing.  The next day, I laced up my shoes again and went out the door.  Now, I’m in my third week of running.  I can tell you that after those first few runs that it has gotten easier.

Today I set a new personal best, running a mile and a half down to “the bridge” on Henderson Church Road and then doing 1 minute run/walk intervals on the way back.  On the last quarter mile to the bridge it is a steep downhill run, you use muscles you didn’t think you had in order to stay standing.

When I made the turn to head back what was once downhill, was now a steep uphill climb.  It was difficult.  I could hardly move.  Every muscle in my legs were on fire and when I would slow down they turned to jelly.  In spite of the circumstances I carried on.  Why?  Because I knew that I was going home.  I was on the home stretch.  I knew that while I was on a hill of adversity at that moment, I would soon be at home with my feet propped up.

It reminded me of what life and death is like for the Christian.  For the Christian, at the beginning of our life, we can make great strides because of our physical strength.  As we age our bodies wear down on us and as we make that turn, sometimes that last stretch is just like that hill, it is the most physically demanding thing we have ever faced and we’re ready to give up.  Fortunately, what awaits the Christian is not a black hole.  It is not “the end.”  When we face the final stretch we can run with joy through adversity because we are running home!  We are running home to the arms of Jesus who has prepared a place for us.  We are running home to the Father who loves us so much that he sacrifices His son for us.  When you are running home, it may be difficult, but there is something greater on the other side.

As a young pastor I have watched many make this journey.  Even now one of my heroes is at home with hospice care and it will not be too long before he will be going to his heavenly home.  My heart breaks to watch my brother-in-Christ deal with a body that is breaking completely down. . . but I know that his spirit is running home.

May it be said of us when we leave this earth:  “I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith.” 2 Timothy 4:7

Doing some research this afternoon I came across this bit of information:

Dr. Archibald Hart of Fuller Theological Seminary’s School of Psychology surveyed the rate of retention in ministry of graduates from seminaries in USA. He found that for every 100 seminary graduates who went into ministry, 40 stayed in ministry beyond five years, and 20 were still in ministry ten years later. There could be many reasons for this. But for the 20% of seminary graduates who did continue in ministry, he found that one of the key factors was having a mentor

At this point I have exceeded five years, which puts me in the rank of the top 40 percent, but still lack two more years of being in the top 20.  It’s hard to believe, however, that in less than five years time, over half of seminary graduates who enter ministry are gone. I know that just from my own personal experience, most of the guys that I went through seminary with, who entered ministry after graduation are still serving in some form or fashion.

The effect of mentoring cannot be understated.  Though I wouldn’t say that I have had just one mentor throughout the years.  I have had different mentors at different times.  I can think of former senior pastors and professors who have (and still) offer their guidance.  With the advent of social media and the internet, one can more readily be mentored “from afar.”  Some men have mentored me through their writings, though we probably will never meet personally (i.e., Piper, MacArthur).

At 32 I am starting to look now to those to whom I can mentor.  I have discovered that mentoring is not for those who “have it all figured out,” but it is pointing, challenging, and guiding others to the One who is and was and is to come.  It does not take years and years of study and experience to be able to dive into that kind of mentoring.  I wonder what the rate of retention is within the church for those that have been mentored?